WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE NONGIRLY?
And why are we labeling girls AGAIN?
It doesn’t matter where you go, we are surrounded by feminine stereotypes, labels, and outdated notions of what it means to be a girl. Quite frankly, it isn’t just the media, or fashion industry, or men that participate. It can even be ourselves, sometimes blatantly and sometimes blindly. Nongirly was built on the foundation that we can be something more than the labels and the stereotypes. We are girls and we have no boundaries.
I am a mother of a 6-year-old daughter, and I just can’t get enough of her stubbornness, her energy, her pure joy in the smallest of things, her random shyness, her interest in dinosaurs (Thanks Dino Dana) and love of mud pies and, YES, her sporadic emotional meltdowns. All of these things are girl. Some of them are girly and some are nongirly.
Yet, the world would have you think that what makes her cute are the girly things.
Nongirly means you are who you are. You like what you like. You love what (and who) you love.
Yes, I cry and yes, I am a smart businesswoman. Yes, my emotions run high sometimes, yet I can think logically and make very practical decisions. I am assertive but nice. I like sweats and flip flops and on Friday nights, I like makeup and heels.
I don’t need to dress sexy to be sexy. I don’t need a man in my life to be fulfilled, yet I married happily.
I took the time to know myself inside and out. I am now comfortable with all of it. Don’t get me wrong, my mental and physical health journey are not over, I just don’t NEED it to be complete in order to feel contentment.
And I want this for my daughter. And I REALLY want this for every daughter. I need you to love you for who you are and how you feel; no matter how “girly”, “high maintenance”, “tomboy”, “intimidating”, “bruh girl”, “one of the boys”, “nerdy” you are. You are amazing and glorious.
And so, the journey starts with NONGIRLY for us. First, we will try and consolidate all things nonpink for our young girls. Then, we will accept our teenagers just the way they are and give them an alternative perspective on social media. Thirdly, we will embrace our young professionals how to fight the good fight in the world after college. And finally, we will acknowledge the woman we are striving to become; strong, confident, content, successful (in our own minds), unique, and evolving. If we achieve this goal, we won’t need nongirly to describe us. We will just be girls. And we can rule the world.